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Moksha Aggarwal

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Depression – How to Deal with Partner in Depression


Depression has now become a word that is commonly used by almost everybody to express sadness, anger or frustration. Little do these people know that depression is a very serious mental condition and can only be cured through proper medication. Being in depression is very debilitating. A depressed person goes through a plethora of emotions that often involve self questioning and feeling unworthy and to be in a relationship with such a person is not easy.

How to  Deal with Partner in Depression

If you love someone who is depressed you have to be extra careful about everything you say or do. You never know what might trigger the depression in your loved one. You should always keep in mind the following things:

  1. Depression is not a choicedepression

The person who is depressed is often unaware of the reason that triggered the depression in them. They do not want it and they cannot do much to get over with it. Always be a little extra lovable with your loved one who is depressed, they want to get rid of it as much as you do.

  1. Be patientdepression

Loving someone who has lost faith in love because of depression can make you impatient and irritable and here is when love comes to test and patience is the answer. Always be patient. They need you the most.

  1. Be informeddepression

As laymen none of us know much about depression. When you’re involved with such a person it might be difficult for you to understand how to tackle the problem. So read about it and find about it more and be instrumental in helping your loved one deal with depression.

  1. Don’t take their depression personallydepression

Your loved one’s depression might drive you crazy and make you think that some where you could be the reason for it. But never make that mistake. Do not take their depression personally; it’s not because of you and it’s not a conscious decision for them to be depressed. Rather go out of your way to make your loved one feel loved.

  1. Encourage themdepression

A depressed person needs more love and encouragement. Tell them that you’re there no matter what. Tell them how much you love them and encourage them. This might not help them overcome depression but it will definitely make them feel better.

  1. Talk positivedepression

Talking positive will not help your loved one get over depression but it will certainly give them a ray of hope and make them deal with it better. Filling the person with positive talks and hopes of things getting better may not make anything better practically and immediately but it is one of the important steps that needs to be taken to overcome with depression & Sadness.

You need to treat you loved one who is also depressed, with a lot of extra love and care, after all, love is what the world needs sometimes. So make these extra efforts to help your loved one deal better with depression.

  1. Fix them their favourite mealdepression

When everything fails, there’s good food that does the magic. Fix your loved one their favourite meal. This will definitely bring a smile to their face. Tell them how much they matter to you and how much you love them.

  1. Take them outdepression

Being in the same place and the same environment over and over makes depression only worse. A person who is depressed might not feel like going out at all but everybody loves a change. So take them out on an excursion or a vacation to some picturesque place. Trust me nature has the cure to all problems.

  1. Make them feel specialdepression

Depression is like getting lost in a dark forest without any exit. But there’s always and exit and the way to the exit might be a little rough. That when love comes in. Telling someone that they are wanted and loved will re-ignite the lost hope in them and make it easier for them to tread on the rough path.

  1. Reach out to themdepression

Reach out to your loved one unexpectedly sometimes telling them that they’re important and how much they mean to you. Sometimes you need to go out of your way to tell someone that they mean the world to you and that is where you start healing the person from.

Being in relationship with a depressed person might be very difficult and it might test your limits at every step but it is important to remember that that person is already going through a lot and needs to be shown that he/she has a support system and somebody who they can rely on. A depressed person is not weak, they might rather only be stronger but they are sensitive. Hence we need to make sure that we treat them with all the extra love, care and respect.

12 Physical and Psychological Symptoms of Stress

Symptoms of Stress

Stress can be defined as that mental state where in a person is exerting a certain kind of mental pressure because of external or internal situations in his/her life. Before we move on to symptoms of stress, lets understand what are types of stress.

Types of Stress

Eustress – that is the good stress required to perform well in any given situation. Eustress is important for us to gauge the situation that we are in and helps us to give our best. This minimal level of stress is actually good for us.

Distress – that is the bad stress that deteriorates our health and leads to mental problems if prolonged. Distress can lead to the following mental diseases if not checked on:

  • Depression
  • Diabetes
  • Anxiety Disorder
  • Heart diseases
  • High Blood pressure
  • Weak Immune system etc.

So how do you find out the level of the stress that your mind is going through? How do you know whether the amount of stress that you’re taking is benefitting you or destroying your mental health?

Whenever there’s something wrong with our body or mind, our body gives us signals in the form of mental and physical symptoms. So if you think that the amount of stress you’re taking is unhealthy for you look out for the following symptoms:

Physical Symptoms of Stress

  1. INSOMNIASymptoms of Stress

You should know that the level of stress that you’re taking is more than necessary when you find it difficult to sleep at night. Insomnia is one of the major symptoms of stress indicating that you’re taking a lot of stress. You feel very tired at night but you can’t fall asleep because stress is at work.

  1. CHEST PAINSymptoms of Stress

Chest pain is very common among people who are distressed. You may suddenly start feeling very week and a sudden bout of pain in the chest may occur. It will be momentary and won’t last too long. This discomfort in the chest, if it takes place too often, is a signal that stress levels are high in your body.

  1. DECREASED APPETITESymptoms of Stress

When the stress levels are high in your body it takes a toll on your appetite as well. You don’t feel hungry and start avoiding food. Your desire to eat, or your appetite gets affected and you don’t feel like eating at all. So when you feel that you’re not hungry for your favourite dishes any more, understand its stress that eating it away.’

  1. EXCESS SWEATINGSymptoms of Stress

You know stress is taking a toll on your body when you sweat too much without any reason. Sweating is normal when it’s hot or you’re doing some physical activity but people who are distressed have sweaty hands most of the times. They are sweating even in normal conditions and that’s when you know you’re distressed.

  1. WEAKNESSSymptoms of Stress

Weakness is another symptom in people who have high levels of stress. Weakness doesn’t allow you to perform well. You don’t feel like doing anything. The body feels strained if you try to do any physical activity or exertion. Stress weakens the body and the mind and hence you’re not able to perform.

  1. FREQUENT HEADACHESSymptoms of Stress

High levels of stress have a direct impact on the body and the mind. When a person is distressed they frequently experience headaches. The person becomes sensitive to loud sounds or excessive lighting when they’re having a headache. Such frequent headaches are a sign of excessive stress.

Psychological Symptoms of Stress

  1. IRRITABILITYSymptoms of Stress

A person who is highly stressed is also very irritable. If you have high stress levels in your body you get irritated very easily by insignificant things. Irritability causes the person to get angry very often at things that are irrelevant. The person becomes impatient and is unable to converse productively.

  1. SOCIAL WITHDRAWALSymptoms of Stress

When the stress levels in your body are more that required you also get socially awkward. Developing conversations with people becomes more and more difficult and you start withdrawing yourself from people. You start avoiding social gatherings and your desire to be socially outgoing diminishes.

  1. LOWERED SELF ESTEEMSymptoms of Stress

A person who is distressed also has lower levels of self esteem. The person stops believing in themselves and starts to doubt his/her capability. Such a person starts to question themselves and whether they are good enough for anything. Their confidence drops and their self doubt increases.


Concentration is one of the most important factors to perform well. When stress levels exceed their limits in your body, your concentration levels decrease. The person’s focus decreases and hence the performance also suffers.

  1. POOR MEMORYSymptoms of Stress

One of the most adverse symptom of stress is poor memory. When stress starts affecting the brain it targets the memory. The person tends to forget important things. It feels like the functioning of the brain has slowed down and remembering things or events that a person is supposed to remember becomes increasingly difficult.

  1. PESSIMISTIC ATTITUDESymptoms of Stress

A person who is distressed views life in a negative manner. Nothing that happens around him makes him feel good. Such a person develops a pessimistic attitude towards people and all circumstances in general. They cannot look at the positive things in life.

Hence if you feel that you have more than 6 of the above mentioned physical of psychological symptoms of stress, it is a clear indication that you are distressed. The levels of stress in your body are more than necessary and are hindering your productivity and growth.

Sometimes the situation that we are placed in causes stress in our lives and there’s nothing much we can do about it. In such cases we should keep and optimistic attitude instead of developing stress and pessimism because stress leads to other mental problems. Being optimistic might not solve the problem all at once but it will definitely help you find solutions that will help you overcome the problem.